Collection by KatieThi Source: Laivana
Creating your best life and learning what makes you happiest takes time. Happiness and freedom are not found through another person, money or things. Your best life and best version of you is uncovered within, when you learn what really sets your soul on fire, what makes you genuinely smile and what is truly important to you, without any outside influence.
Yes, we can gain inspiration and encouragement from outside sources. Take what you learn from others and look inside yourself to realize what that means to you and how you want to emulate or incorporate that into your life. The following are 10 ways that help guide you to find your unique path to your best life, freedom, and self-growth.
Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself – George Bernard Shaw
1.Free yourself from negative thoughts
You must practice positive talk and become consciously aware of what you are saying and thinking inside your head. This was the best way to start the day on the right foot and good practice of how self-talk should be. When you do this, it helps you also become aware of how you talk about other people.
Yes, there may be people you don’t mesh with or agree with, but learning to let go of those people rather than talk negative to them or about them, is so freeing. Letting go of the negativity from all areas of your life is going to give you the best benefit to be the best you.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t have bad days. We are all human beings and we all have them. Days where we don’t feel or look our best. Accepting this is also part of the process. Being ok with not always doing everything right, is part of the change to a more positive you. Cut yourself some slack, let go of the B.S. and start looking at the glass half full. You owe it to yourself.
2. Let go of relationships that don’t add value
Ladies, don’t ever settle. Wait until you know exactly what you want, take your time and be selfish. Learn your worth, then add tax. These are not the only relationships you need to be aware of. Any relationships in your life, friendships, even family, should not be causing you negativity all the time. Do not be afraid to walk away from them or take a break. If it’s a close friend of the family, maybe they do not know how you feel or how they make you feel. The first step would be having the courage to have a calm and honest conversation. If that doesn’t work, then, by all means, it is ok to distance yourself for your own happiness.
3. Take time for yourself
Use the time for yourself as an opportunity to get to know yourself, to learn, and to grow. This time spent needs to be for you. Everyone is different. The time alone for you to grow may look a bit different than my time to grow. It takes some practice to realize what works for you. I love to read, but maybe you don’t and that’s ok.
Try a podcast or a youtube channel, but not just anything. Find a source that helps facilitate your self-growth in an area where you feel you could use some encouragement. For example, if you have body image/self-esteem issues, find a podcast that is focused on this area and dive into it in your free time.
4. Eat healthy without “dieting”
Eating well to be skinny is not the point, and to be honest, following some of these diets to be skinny is not actually healthy. Healthy is what is truly important. Health is what will give you the ability to live an active life, live longer, prevent disease, feel happier and the list goes on and on. With that being said, healthy looks different on everyBODY. There is not one size, a certain weight, a certain look that indicates health. Health is all about what is within. Sure, if you eat healthy your body will also reflect it, in your own unique beautiful way.
In reality, you are not going to count calories or stick to certain meals every single day of your life. Creating a lifestyle that has more freedom but still meets your health needs is what will leave space for you to find whole foods that you actually enjoy as well as let go of getting down on yourself if you don’t follow someone else’s expectations.
Also, an important note that it is OK to enjoy life as well. If you are at a birthday party, eat the cake. It always makes me sad to hear someone say “oh, I am on a diet, I can’t have that.” When you limit yourself too much it causes a negative feeling, which typically leads to more indulging than necessary. If you follow an everyday healthy eating routine, then treats here and there are ok and should be enjoyed. Life is short, eat healthy to make it last as long as possible but also don’t miss out on life little indulgences. Like anything list in here, this will take time, but if you put in the effort you do have the ability to find YOUR balance.
5. Implement a daily routine
Days can pass so quickly without realizing what we did or didn’t do. Having a routine can help to incorporate important things you may be missing or set up a less stressful week ahead. You have already talked about a few important things to incorporate into your routine. One of them is making sure there is time for yourself daily. Including a list of affirmations to read for yourself each morning. Having set days that you go to the gym or workout at home. Preparing food is also a great idea. On the weekend prepare a few things to have ready to grab and go for the week.
Your daily routine does not have to be set out minute by minute and give yourself a break if it does not go completely to plan. However, if you have something set up you are more likely to hold yourself accountable and also fit more in then you maybe thought you could. Try implementing a few things, then add something new each week and make adjustments as needed.
6. Explore the world
Go explore this big world we live in. Maybe traveling is not for you, and that’s ok. Just getting outside and seeing somewhere new, even in your own backyard, can be eye-opening. Another encouragement I have learned from this is to not be afraid of change but to embrace it and even chase after it. Embracing change, whether planned or unplanned, gives you a space for the most self-growth. Everything will be ok, though in some moments it may not seem that way. Live a life of adventure, whatever adventure means to you. Allow yourself to step outside your comfort zone and free your mind, opening it to new lessons and knowledge.
7. Don’t be afraid of change to live your best life
If you need to, take some time to yourself to really think about what you want to be different. If you are hesitating but do not have any real reason why then my advice is just to dive head first into it. Think about it, but don’t overthink it.
Even if your new adventure does not go according to plan, you can be proud of yourself that you tried. Too many people let their fear completely hold them back from something great. It’s better to go for it, then to sit still forever. Trust me, I want to travel for as long as I remember and for YEARS I held myself back for unimportant excuses. Go after what you want, it is not going to just be handed to you.
8. Find what moves you
Moving your body is so vital to living a long, healthy and happy life. Are you that person who hopes to retire one day and see the world? Or do you hope to be able to run around with your grandkids? You must incorporate physical activity into your daily life. I don’t have to sit here and list all the benefits the exercise creates for us. It’s common knowledge that exercise is good and so important to your health.
You just need to be willing to, again, step out of your comfort zone. There are so many different ways to move your body, such as yoga, walking, dance, swimming, and outdoor activities. Put yourself out there and find what moves you. You not only better your body, but better your mind.
9. Embrace progress, not perfection
Embrace progress, not perfection in every single area of your life. This is so important for living your free life. Let go of unrealistic expectations or expectations that are anyone else’s but your own. If you are looking for a “perfect” body you will never be satisfied. Instead, strive for progress that makes you feel better from the inside. Absolutely no one is perfect. So if you strive for that in any area of your life, you are automatically setting yourself up for disappointment. We are our own worst critic and tend to focus in on what we consider to be imperfections, instead of focusing on what we love about ourselves.
Shift your focus and magic happens. If anyone tries to hold you to a perfect standard, then they clearly are not looking in the mirror. Progress is what you should be striving for. We all have room for progress in our lives. Appreciating the progress, or climb to the top, makes the view or accomplishment that much sweeter. Keep your eyes fixed on continually improving and growing yourself, and don’t be distracted by achieving perfection. If you do you will be constantly chasing something unattainable. Progress, on the other hand, is something that you have the ability to proudly achieve on your own.
10. Fight for what you want
Be a boxer. Powerful in your battle, prepared to defend yourself when needed, having the courage to stand up to anything against you, focused on your goals, continually in the practice of becoming better and graceful in your defeats. You will not always be the champion in what you are faced with. But you will create confidence in being in control of how you react to what’s thrown your way, rather than letting it control you. When you are in control of yourself, you will always win. The main event you will be continuously matched against is your own mind, never stop winning.
These are things that I incorporated into my life, that I am always working on improving. They led me to a happier life filled with purpose, achievement, pride, love, growth and even more that I am not good at putting into words. I hope that these are areas you can also use in order to better yourself, for you, not for anyone else. Everyone deserves to be free from the power of negativity, self-doubt, fear, unhealthy habits and living for others. You deserve it! There is no time like the present to start creating and living your best life.