Dating world is a minefield for anyone, especially when you’re a single mom. Don’t worry, you’re not alone. There are plenty of single parents out there just like you that looking for their other half. So if you’re ready or just consider diving back to dating, here are some key tips from the Mingle2 team to help you make a great come back. Let’s check them out.
How long to wait?
We all need time to get over a break-up but you don’t want to wait for too long to find someone. The more you wait, the more you’ll be comfortable with your single life. Also, being in the comfort zone for too long will make it harder for you to open up with anyone or take a longer time for someone to build trust in a relationship with you.
It’s time to keep moving forward. Head out and make some friends. If the bar or the club is too loud for you, let’s try out a museum, a park, a bookstore. Not only you can spend fun time with your kids in those places but they are also great locations to meet adults.
Be myself or be someone else?
Being a single mom is exhausted, you hardly find time to take care of yourself. However, you shouldn’t feel that you’re not pretty enough for anyone. Coco Chanel once said, “Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself”. All the makeup and fancy clothes will make you look like someone in the magazine but not who you really are. External beauty fades over time, you know.
Before finding a man, you should find yourself first. Being in a relationship for too long makes you be accustomed to your other half being around. You altered your personality to match your partner’s without realization. So being single is the time to discover yourself, to know what you want and who you want to become. The more you learn about yourself, the more you know about what you are looking for. So read more books, travel to new places, learn something new, find a new hobby and make yourself stand out for your future Mr. Right.
Is dating app worth considering?
Single moms spend most of their time running around their kids, that’s why trying online dating sites can be a great start to find someone. Unlike real life dating, meeting people online will help you to date a guy outside of your social circle as you can make connections with everyone in the world. This enhances chances to find you a compatible man. However, you should be skeptical with the ones you meet online since scamming is an unavoidable thing on dating sites.
And how about the kids? Some single moms think adding their children in their info may make their profiles much less attractive than keeping their profiles baby-free. It’s your kid we’re talking about, he or she must be something you’re proud of and not afraid to show off with the whole world. Plus, being honest also helps you avoid narrow-minded jerks and wasting your precious time on those who are not worthy.
You can’t write the next chapter of your life if you keep looking back. Don’t hesitate when it comes to love. Be strong, be confident, extend the searching of love and I hope you’ll find what you’re looking for. Good luck finding the love of your life, ladies.