As the new year begins its journey, it can be a wonderful time to reflect upon the changes wish to make in our lives. The focus tends to be upon the things we wish to remove from our lives. This includes bad habits or a little extra holiday weight. Sound at all familiar?
But what about the elements of our daily experiences that we might want to upgrade for the better? At this time of year, our social media newsfeeds are full to bursting with ‘new year, new me’ posts. You know the ones!
How can we go about making changes in our personal life, without so much of the fanfare?
A new calendar year is a good a time as any to start a journey of developing your sense of sexuality, no matter what your personal circumstances are. Perhaps you’re a busy mother without a lot of time for yourself. Or a hard hitting businessman, finding it difficult to remove the sturdy outer casing you thrive with in the working world.
Did you know that a simple techniques you can try, such as trying a free online dating sites? You could try dating someone entirely different to your usual ‘type’ could be a way to explore this side of yourself?
No matter who you are, you have chosen this article for a reason. You clicked the title from a place of curiosity. Even from a place of excited intrigue. Your presence here demonstrates a definite interest. Which is a very positive sign indeed.
So without further ado, let’s dive right into it to develop sense of sexuality!
3 easily applied ways to develop your sense of sexuality this coming year:
Freedom.
Discovery of any kinds involves a certain measure of explorative adventure. Be a student of your own thoughts and feelings, and allow yourself the liberty of experimentation. Why not try attending a bar, event or festival. Choose ones that celebrate the types of sexuality that you are most interested. What has always interested you?
Or you could go on a date with someone of a different sex or sexual orientation to you, or to what you’re used to. Online dating is all about trying people on for size and you can be as free with this as you wish to. There are no rules!
Aside from the one that states that you are comfortable with whatever choices you make for yourself. You’ll be astonished at what – or even who – you discover from the process of liberating yourself in this way. You may even wonder why you didn’t do so earlier.
Acceptance.
We all differ in our likes and dislikes as humans, we unite in the fact that we are all guess-working along the way. None of us come issued with a helpful handbook to life and this applies to us all. No exceptions! Part of discovering your sexuality is about accepting who you are underneath.
But it’s also about accepting you might mess up a little along the way. Or when you choose directions that don’t make you as happy as you thought they might. Sometimes the process of self-discovery can be more difficult – or even more depleting – than we’d like it to be. It can even feel raw or uncomfortable when we delve into our inner thoughts and desires.
But remember – it’s all you. Every last piece of it. Accept yourself for who you are, including your sexuality. If you can, you are well on your way to a place of being exactly who you deserve to be. Even with the person you’re supposed to be with…
Education.
Our early experiences most likely did not equip most of us with the tools we all need to develop our sexuality. But thankfully, someone did invent literature. Along with the modern wonder of internet search engines! Make your discovery of your sexuality as informed as it can be, by becoming a student of your own interests.
While on your journey of exploring your sexuality it makes sense to support the process with information that may help to guide you. There is a wealth of information ready and waiting for you. These range from ‘how-to’ guides and online blogs right through to scholarly research. There are chapters on every form and experience of sexuality that has ever existed.
You don’t have to memorise facts. But you do need to stay open minded to the perspectives of others. Ideas you hadn’t yet considered in order for you to get the most out of any experimentation phases. The fact that you chose to read this article already illustrates your lustre for learning – keep it going!
Sexuality can be defined in all manner of ways.
It can be enjoyed in a multitude of forms – and different partners! What will work for one person may not connect with someone else in the same way – and that’s absolutely normal.
The key thing is to keep your mind focused on going forwards. It is a process of your discovery. One of deeply personal and sometimes even private experimentation. There is no ticking clock, and you don’t need to conform to anything beyond your own levels of comfort.
You don’t owe the world any answers, and there is no pressure to rush into anything you aren’t comfortable with. You don’t have to be a certain way to accept yourself. And you don’t need to worry about acceptance.
You just need to be the best version of yourself. In whatever form that takes during your sexual ventures and inner research. Take joy in the process, always.
Reader, you are the leader of your life and this journey you are about to embark upon. There is a whole, wonderful world out there ready and waiting for you to discover it.
Be free, be accepting, and always stay curious. It will make 2020 more exceptional than you might have ever imagined.
