When you move into a new place and notice you have a hot neighbor, it takes you just seconds to wonder if they’re available and, if they are, you start plotting just how long you should wait until you go over and ask for a cup of sugar (and of course you’re thinking “is that even a real thing or just a sitcom move?”)
But what is it about the “girl/boy next door” that’s really that desirable? On paper, dating your neighbor sounds fun and even convenient, but take a peek behind the veil and you’ll find that you couldn’t make a worse mistake in your personal life. Allow us to tell you why you shouldn’t date your neighbor.
They live next door. All the time (even when you break up)!
If you start dating your neighbor, there will definitely be some benefits. You’ll always be able to hang out, “late night” activities are just a few steps away, and you’ll actually never have to worry about who to ask for that cup of sugar!
But what about if/when you break up? When you break things off with someone, the last thing you want to do is see them. If you break up with someone who lives by you, you will have to work twice as hard to avoid running into each other. But when you do, you run the risk of awkward stares, obvious attempts to avoid eye contact or even acknowledging each other’s existence, and worst of all, seeing when they “move on”. Do yourself a favor and don’t leave the door open to this possibility.
Your next significant other will want to know about that “extra friendly neighbor”
Worst case scenario, your ex becomes a crappy neighbor. But what about when you break things off on good terms and decide to stay being good friends? This situation could also make your love life suffer because there’s nothing worse than making your partner insecure about who your eyes lay on.
Your “extra friendly neighbor” will surely make your new significant other bring up the subject every now and then. Get used to questions and remarks with ulterior meanings like “how long have you two known each other? You guys get along so well!” or “He’s/she’s really cute, don’t you agree?” Your partner would only feel that much more uncomfortable when they realize the person they just waved hi to might know your bedroom better than they do.
There are better options if you expand your search beyond just your neighborhood
Don’t limit yourself to the confines of your block or your neighborhood when searching in the dating pool! What are the odds that the love of your life lives in your hood, much less your zip code? If The Great Gatsby taught us anything, sometimes it’s better to long for something than to actually have it; use that approach to your neighborhood crush.
Happy love life isn’t determined by proximity, so make use of the technology of this day and age to find your perfect match. Online dating is incredibly useful at helping people find their ideal counterpart easier. A recent study showed that “66% of online daters have gone on a date with someone they met through a dating site or app, and 23% of online daters say they have met a spouse or long term relationship through these sites”
With those odds, you’re bound to found “the one” much easier online than on “Main Street”
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