What causes us to feel attraction for someone who is not right for us in the first place?

By KatieThi

Source : Riley Cooper

A WRONG RELATIONSHIP WILL MAKE YOU FEEL MORE ALONE THAN WHEN YOU WERE SINGLE.

In what follows, we presented five possible reasons why you might be attracted to someone who is wrong for you and who is likely to break your heart

1. You think they need your help to change.

This is probably the primary reason why a lot of people decide to stay in troubled, toxic relationships. They care about the other person and if they notice that they have some personal problems, for example, they are emotionally unstable, then they will wrongly believe that they can help them deal with their issues and in turn change. Please know that it’s not your responsibility to ‘fix’ or change anyone. If your partner truly loves you, they will make an effort to solve their problems, get out of their bad habits, and change. Moreover, you need to know that some people simply don’t want to change.

2. You can see yourself in them.

You feel like they’re an image of you. You think that they understand your feelings, your insecurities, your fears. You think they know your story.

But, this is impossible. No one can completely understand your issues and relate to them.

3. You think you’re the one to blame for your relationship problems.

If this is how you feel in your relationship, know that by behaving this way, you give your partner a chance to use you as a scapegoat and blame you for your relationship problems. You allow them to avoid taking personal responsibility for their own mistakes.

4. Your loved ones convince you to stay with your partner.

There are cases in which you know that the person you’re with is wrong for you. You’re ready to leave them, but you’re prevented from doing that because a close friend or family member tries to convince you that you should give your partner and the relationship one more chance. But more chance = more hurt. If they love you, they won’t need any more chances

5. You believe what you and your partner have is genuine love.

If your love drains your energy, brings you stress and disappointment, and takes your happiness away, then genuine love is certainly not a part of your relationship.

Sometimes we give love to the wrong person, and we sit there and wonder, how could I have given love to that person? “They don’t even deserve it “or ” what a waste of time”. But the thing is, you shouldn’t think about it that way. You should think of the fact that you were able to give love, because if you are able to give, that means you have it inside of you It’s the same thing with kindness, with honesty, with your ability to care about people. Don’t focus on the way that people abuse that. Focus on the fact that you have it within you, and that it makes you who you are. It makes you a beautiful person, a beautiful human being.